Negara Demokrat dan Demonstrasi Awam #LAWAN

 Malaysia

It has been 2 years of Malaysia has been in this endless pandemic which is a really tiring and hopeless situation for all of us. The different situations for both privileged and underprivileged society status in this country. Everyone handling this with so many different ways to coping with life unpredictable situations which a very humane of us. but sadly, there are huge numbers of suicidal reported by the media itself and other non-reported numbers which we never know because suicidal and mental health courses are still taboo for many Malaysian here. 

What is actually happening

The political situation has always been a big issue in a lot of countries. I mean, it is the main thing in every country, right? the main which decides how the authority handle and manage inside the inter-relation, inter-country and other political movement and agreement that sure something a lot to talk about here. but what to focus on today is Why Malaysians are so mad about and What actually the problems? 

As we all know, the Parliament just open to convened this week which is on the 26th of July, which means they had just started all the interstate discussion which should be on the issue brought out by the citizen towards the people's representative inside the parliamentary debate but for those who really watch and observe how they bring and discuss , only frustration is the highest mark of all outcome. 

To list a few, a lot of people lost their job, a lot of people don't eat enough in their homes, politician restriction on NGOs who initiate the BENDERA MOVEMENT initiative, the politician who doesn't observe their responsibilities towards the country, the rate of patients in the hospitals, the Hartal Doktor Kontrak, the not fixed regulation in SOP and movement restrictions, ways of them handling economic issues, and many more I cant put all in just one writing. almost like saying, our own rights have been taken off by our own people (politicians)

#LAWAN

Lawan is the public demonstration around the KL area done yesterday (31st August). The demonstration was held by NGO activists to burst out inner anger towards the authority. But is this even necessary to be done within this Covid-19 restrictive movement? This can be widely discussed by all. From what I read online, there are still people who do not agree with this movement because they are worried about the spread of viruses that can be happened due to no SOP taken care of by the riot. They also concern about the no adab by the riot. Funny cause, who do riots with sopan santun? hahaha.

My opinion here, if you really think of law and justice, none will keep silent about this chaos. If you really open your eyes about how suffering the people of the country are right now, you will understand why people choose that way of demonstration. if you really care about how the police are abusing our own people and silently do racism and discrimination in the custody, you will let people who are brave enough to go forward instead of being the person who gives unsolicited critics but also beneficiating from the outcome given from the demonstration. 

The people who do not understand the real motive of public demonstration it is okay if you do not have a good picture of what it actually is but for those who hentam with irrational and unsolicited critics should observe their way of thinking regarding these issues. The reason our political manner never change is that there are still many who does not have put angst interest towards the change our country should have as to save the beloved Tanah Air from continued manipulated by the hypocrisy and corruption handled by them. People who arrogantly ignore the benefits and importance of riot demonstrations give reason and blind power toward the politicians which easily abuse the power enacted in the law. As in their mind, there is still a majority who is stupidly obedient towards the corrupted authority when all they had done is oppressing us. Let us think, why the government do not have the interest to change their style of leadership? It is because not many have interest to push them hard to change their political movement. Duit suap, Duit bawah meja, Tanah melayu di jual secara senyap, Hutan habis ditarah untuk suapan keturunan sendiri dan tak lupa juga para politikus yang senang lenang sebab tahu kedudukan dan wang tak akan terjejas sebab masih kuat sokongan ke atas beliau. 

STOP SEE RIOTS JUST FROM THE SIDE OF THE MEDIA. THE MANIPULATION AND ONE-SIDED OPINION HAVE ALWAYS BEEN THEIR GAME. ESPECIALLY THE ONE WHO WAS PAID BY THE GOVERNMENT TO COVER UP THE NORTH OF TRUTH. 

We all must stop giving so many powers to tyrants, stupid leadership and oppressors. Be a better citizen. Covid-19 has been around for 2 years but these governments and political issues have been going on for 64 years since this country was handled by them. WE have always been governed by Article 10 of the Federal Constitution. That is the power we always have. Everyone has the right to speak, has the right to go for public demonstration and has the right to fight for their own rights. So go for it. 

"LAW NEVER OPPRESSING US, BUT THE ONE WHO IGNORES THE LAW IS THE OPPRESSOR"

Here, I speak for the death of numerous racist abusive custody, for the illegal custody of journalists and activists and for the underprivileged people we all always care of. To speak as much as I can is never cover how much abuse of power had been done towards this country. Angry is the emotion for one who cares for the country. THIS IS THE EMOTION OF THOSE WHO CARE ENOUGH FOR THE ONE THEY LOVE. #riot #lawan #benderahitam

Future Behold

 LOVE AND HOW IT GOES

    I always dream of the time when love will drive me forward despite me and him being madly in love after marriage. The time we allowed and the seed of good deeds grow in each of our actions. The credit points we were given by God will motivate me to do my best in my relationship.

BUT LET'S GIVE THAT THOUGHT A PAUSE FOR AWHILE

    Take a view of the reality we live in now, love and kindness is not a weird thing to fall into number 11 or at least 10 in the top priority. How about the commitment. Taken for granted is a common term everyone can understand and relate to. The phrase we use to show were taken with less priority, seriousness and appreciation by the one we love. In short, an unrequited love. PATHETIC and waste of time. 

THEY SAY "LOVE IS A GAMBLE" 

    But for me, love is something that goes both ways while gamble is one-way hope (no casino hoping you to win). Love should always be seed in every day and grow what buried and potentials that shy to show off themselves. Saying it a gamble, kinda show we do not take it seriously for the future together. A selfish mode of partnering can lead to marrying singles. 

RECIPROCAL LOVE- imagine that?

    Commitment issue is something that always mingles around in one wh once had broken-hearted. Something that sits in between to invest time and hope while afraid we might fail in the plan we made together. The issue where we might fall into the deep hole of the wrong direction in prioritizing the idea of what is urgent and important in our life. A hell of it might go South when we hope for the North. 

PLAN BUT NOT WORKING OUT

    Not everything in life will bring the best out of it, but something from the best we have given out will absolutely give the expected and unexpected. Life has always been in the hands of god. We cannot control life but we can always plan and give effort for it. Imagine, manifest and pray for the ideal life we want. Play along with the shortcomings and the opportunities, things will go North. That is the same idea we need to give in love and relationship. Human is a complex creature. God said, "I created you differently for you to know each other". That's the plan. The plan is to know your buddy and play and play your role. Forget what you afraid of even it is hard to do in some way. Life never is easy for anybody, but life can be fun when you know how to play the game.

LOVE will come in their way

    What you afraid of is the sign for you to grow the shit out of it. The misdirect your instinct tells you is the sign for you to take it and challenge yourself to try new things even they scare you. Love is a very beautiful word. So why we afraid to have it? 

If other people can have it why not us?

Life

     Life can be weird sometimes. We taught of competition since we were small, during the fertilization the competition is real. 

    Then as we born, we expected by our parents to be specific kind of person like the future is in the hold of their hands. 

    As we grow up, from elementary school to university, we taught of getting first place from other students and learning the same syllabus when everyone capabilities gifted differently. 

    Then the working world taught us to keep up with who is the best employment of the month. 

    Come into the world of marriage where being a wife, mother and part of family-in-law, everything is judged based on our performance in doing the best and get compared by the people around us.

    With all those competitions, who we are at the end?

    We all advocate on being a productive, strategist and living with a healthy mindset but do we really living that life when everything is so competitive and in rush. Do we really enjoying life by living the life or we just do what everyone does to living life? 

    Leaving the question unanswered, the meaning of life is meaningful when we live it from our life interpretation and not from what others opinion on it. If we understand and believe that not having a child after marriage makes us live the bulletproof life, do that free willingly. If we think living life with a very simple lifestyle makes us more content and grounded, make it real and don't compare with them who live life lavishly. 

    Living life from eagle eye

    Don't battle life from the bottom point of view. Live it from the eagle eyes. See life from wider and broader point of view. Tackle life from different ways and see how it sway.

    Contemplating it whether we should live life from what others think is ideal might not be the ideal lifestyle for us. Remember to live life peacefully and you will feel the actual meaning and connection with the creator, life and us. 

Old Poem

 Old Poem, Mukhsin

The minute i heard my first love story,

I started looking for you,

Not knowing how blind that was

Lovers don't finally meet someone,

They're in each other all along

We don't always find the one,

We carry inside us

But love is kind,

They give us second chances

I found mine

I hope you found yours to

-Mukhsin

The Shining Amour

 

Shining amours have their best shield and sword. Looking forward to the best enemies on the battlefield to fight making the war worth it. After the fight, they celebrate it with joy and vain. The satisfaction of winning pleasure impacts their name around the fighter. Next time the battle comes around again, their name left a huge mark inside the enemies’ memories, deep-coming scars coming with a wake-up call they knew but still heading for it. Things people do for name and legacy. Winners will leave a huge history and marks in everyone head.

            I taught life as a battlefield since I was small. I was born into a conservative family. Dad is a doctor and mom is a house mom who working with dad at the same time. As a firstborn to 2 other younger brothers, I was expected to be a high achiever since I was small. Sent to a religious kindergarten and religious high school. I like how the religious thought stays with me. I love how the devotion to god was molded inside to me having a sincere thought of god and the universe around. But living in with conservative mindset parent it was hard to reach the point of satisfaction obedient child. I am never obedient in the eyes of my parents. The everyday moment I know I will never be enough for both of my parents; I start to hate myself slowly.  Despite the strong traditional culture, I am having until now, I was exposed by them to Barbie and other western cartoon culture. Surprisingly to them, the expose I had is not just a mere exposure, I was a girl who creates her passion through the western mind. I love arts, music, and fashion. Something that anybody who is conservative would call a disgrace. Nevertheless, I am still proud and keep going with my own natural passion.

            Gladly, my dad raised me with a good secondary education. I was exposed to good English knowledge since I was small. I can understand English when I was 6 years old in a household that speaks Malay the whole time. Having an asian tiger mom was stressful even until now we never stop fighting over small things. I hate her intonation of speak to us siblings and even had spoken to her about this but I know there is not a second of time she will ever change that for us. I am a person who is silent as to how my parents thought me to. Self-taught of less self-expression heartless and laid-back. Answering back ourselves to clear things up is disobedient. Other than continuous small fights, she always comments on my body shape. Sounds so negative. As thought by my religious teacher, we should always obey our parents unless it is something that against the religion. Everyone is well taught of it, but my question is do every action of parents is permissible without taking children’s emotion and physical well-being into thought.

            Growing up with bags of high expectation from parents on my shoulder, I know the time I were sent to Law school is the step I consensually willing to receive a bunch more hardships. Law school is never easy but at least something enjoyable for me to work on. I learn a lot of cool stuff but I never aim for good grades because I know my head will create so much terrible inside. Over three years in my degree, I had built up huge anxiety and depression due to stress from uncontrolled coffee consumption, lack of sleep, and the endless fight with my mom. I always feel stuck in between. By that, I put aside any expectation towards myself because if I do that, I know I can never handle any of messes in my life. Impact of my action, I enjoy my degree despite average grades in every semester, I know I will do the best outside of law school soon. That surely coming out from a person who knows herself well. Applying and learning is a huge difference especially in winning the case inside the court. That is all on my passion which I know without it I will not find my purpose and will keep dwelling on hanging thoughts of ending my life because I hate for not having an emotionally supportive family in the context of caring about my emotional well-being.

This almost like saying, to make my family understand, worrying too much about my future will not bring me anywhere. To make them understand the years I have been living for is in their own bubbles. To make them understand that along the moment I stop explaining myself and let them win in every argument is the point I had given up my hope for them to be the ideal parents I wish they were. This shows how expectation upon someone will kill the natural growth of someone. As a young adult, I understand myself not having expectations of something I can never control and by learning that I have a good relationship with myself. Everyone is never perfect; we are just growing so do my parents and I hope they will understand this too.

            Talking about my struggles in law school, as everyone else has coping mechanisms when they feel demotivated, I also have things I do when facing hardship. For me, I will be binge-watching Kittendust and Gita Savitri on Youtube. They both are my favorite YouTuber from Indonesia. Interestingly Fathia Izzati and I have a common as a law student. She finished her studies at 25 years old which surprisingly again, I am 25 this year. But lucky for her, she finds fortune in her passion which is music but not –yet for me. Gita on the other hand is a very passionate Muslim feminist I ever knew in my generation. I love her openness and braveness she has when pointing out her opinions and ideas especially on women empowerment. She is my inspiration to start blogging when I was in the first year of my degree. They are a huge influencer in my life. Someone who I will look up forever when I feel down, more like two big sisters for me.

            Enough of my personal life experience, let us think about how most therapists would say to each of their clients. Fact that most of our adult traumas were created since our childhood dissatisfaction and pain. The way humans keep on bring this inside themselves is something we all need to take into action. The way patients keep carry on the unsettled issues from their past life somehow make the unhappy life events subconsciously happened. Something that theological ideas can help but also an evolution human being needs to accept. Parents who growing up in different generations from us might hardly accept this fact but as time showing itself, they need to understand that child is also growing in their own generation. Generation is never the same from one another. As to how their parents and our parents growing up. Following their rules sounds more pleasing but that only stops the inner battle but not solving the real issue we face.

            Looking at how gracefully the mind working, we lost our innocence but never the hope. Words that I love to tell myself from time to time for her to keep going and never stop because I was born in this world because I want to. I will not make a choice cutting my own lines just to end it blindly. Ending my own life is always the work of God never mine. I hope everyone who is reading this will understand. We all own our own shining amour, strong knight helping us on the battlefield. The power of God keeps us going no matter how hard life is. Telling ourselves that we are not going to continue this cycle towards our children and we are going to create new beliefs we comfortable with. Understands that everyone in this world is trying their best including ourselves and our parents. Mental health is a priority to keep us sane and unload other works, tasks, and responsibilities. Mind over matters is what we all aim for. Do not underestimate ourselves and our capabilities. Keep going on, reach the best version of ourselves, as people’s words will never kill us, our mind willpower is stronger than those outside threats.

            This is not personal story of my life but story of a girl who always walking on shattered glasses but choose not to give up. She hopes that anyone who reading this will get inspiration and continue on living their best life.

 

 

ramadhan reflection day- 10

 hope & healing- devil's plot | mufti menk

1. human is good but syaitan is bad

2. making human looks bad is syaitan's role

3. love goodness for sake of allah, 

4. no negative thought of people. always have positive thought on people even they are not in straight path.

5. prophet Muhammad always pray for those who in astray

6. in order to protect yourself from words of syaitan; in ver 38 allah said to adam: "in order to protect your progeny from syaitan, i will send you guide and message to your progeny. whoever follows the guidance will be protected from syaitan. they will have no reason to fear nor to be sad" 

7. faimmaiya' tikum minni huda, faamtabiahuda ya falahaufunalaihim walahum yahzanun"- everytime guidance come from me, whoever follows that guidance will have no reason to be fearful nor to be sad.

8. if you want to feel relief, follow whatever allah said. you wont have reason to feel sad and fearful

9. allah is the most merciful, so keep trying to be the best.

10. prophet adam fault and allah forgave him.

11. you realise you did something wrong, you seek forgiveness and try to not repeat that mistakes again.

12. this means yo belive in allah, this means you full of hope

13. allah will unite and he can makes you lost

14. why should i doubt his promise, we will never heal

15. thus the guidance is to heal, follow it.

16. al-baqarah verse 40: nabi musa, children of yacob (more than once) "ya bani Israel yazkuru niqmatiyallati anamtualaikum"- "oh children of Israel (prophet jacob), remember the favor of mine upon you" 

17. time when we just came out from difficulties and hardship: by thinking a lot of blessing during the time of hardship will give so much of healing, there will be so much hope.

18. he always gives you some form of ability, go for it, keeps going & trust Allah for it. 

19. we heal by remembrance of his nikmat

20. those hardship and blessings are to take you to think of how far you have come so far. a gratitude you need to think of

21. but the plot is: syaitan always makes us thinking of the bad, the past bcs he wants us to think we are hopeless.

22. allah test the believer so we can be the best among the best.

23. the steps of  changing might takes a prolong time, we cant be "displease him for 25 years then want to change in just 5 days expecting the table to turn"

24. verse 43: "waaqimussolah taatuzzakah tawarqoumaaroqiin"- fulfill your prayer, give charity and give help the poor and bound down to those who bowing (collectively)- reach to them by giving help" 

Ramadhan Reflection 6

 Hope & Healing from The Nobel Quran | Mufti Menk

1. In surah al Baqarah, Allah mention "there is no doubt in this book"- a guide for those who believe in Allah.

2. Allah ask us to have no doubt in Quran. when there is doubt, there is no healing, there is no hope in oneself.

3.  "za lika bu la roibafih" -in this book there is no doubt in it. an absolute correct

4. "la raoiba fih hi hudallilmuttaqin" - there is no doubt in it, there is guidance for those who develop taqwa. 

5. Taqwa is the development of cautiousness in Allah

6. No doubt + guidance from Quran = time we benefit of revelation & relationship with Allah

7. We know what is right & know. we must put effort to continue to protect ourselves in such a matter

8. Doing anything as fear of Allah as means of love to Him.

9. Who are those who develop the right relationship with Allah. those who have hope always, those who believe in words of the Quran has healing upon them

10. "al lazi nayumununabil ghaairiwayukimunasalah ta wamima razaqna hum yunfikun"- Allah point 3 important thing.

11. Those who believe in the unseen - they have no doubt: Jannah, hope, good things

12. Those who are Muttaqin are those who believe in Allah: they pray & spend with what Allah give

13. Those who believe in what had revealed to you & before you & they had full conviction towards the hereafter. 

12. Solah is what Allah ask us; a connection with Allah. the best position to be with Him.

13. If we give ease to someone else, we will have ease. help someone by giving heal & hope, so we can have the same

14. To make your heart heal, you must believe in Allah. with hope, you can heal.

15. Allah said " ula ikaala hudam mirrobihim was ula ikahumul muflihun" - those are the ones who are upon the guidance from their lord. 

16. In surah al-Fatihah we ask Allah to bein those who have guidance, then in surah al-Baqarah Allah says on who is the one who in guidance; (belief in Allah, believe in unseen, they pray to Allah & they reach in others)

17. Honest with Allah, honest with others

18. Those who did that, they are the one who among the successful. 

19. Thus, Allah said "don't worry, better days are coming. they will come soon"

20. In verse 21 (surah al Baqarah) "o people worship your lord" - who is your lord, the one who created you and created those all before you

21. let's have a good relationship with Allah

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The Power of Controlled Emotions | Mizi Wahid

1. The power of controlled emotions

2. Human is easy to be triggered with emotions

3. Graduate with someone who is in the past > the one we becoming next

4. Become cautious with what happens within it. (the point we can control ourselves)

5. The endless keyboard warrior. "defeat of responses from parties"

6. Hadith: " I guarantee you a house in the outskirts of paradise for the one who able too walk away from an argument even though they may be on the right side. even though you are in the right side"

7. Prophet asked us to choose our battle because not everyone worth your time and energy, not everyone has positive outcome

8. If you sense that if you been dragged into an argument, remember what the prophet said. 

Episode 1 (Meeting Muhammad)

His Appearance | by Imam Omar Sulaiman

- Allah never sent a prophet who has a beautiful face & voice

- His character is far more beautiful than his appearance

-Abdullah ibn Wahab: describe the presence of the Prophet "if the prophet has nothing but his presence, you will look at him and you would know already that there was something divinely beautiful about him"

-There is a lot of beautiful story about people embracing Islam just by looking at prophet Muhammad. 

- Abdullah Abdul salam, the chief  before the years of prophet Muhammad said "just by looking at his face, I know this ain't face of a liar"

- Describe in a book of description: from head to toe (al-syamail al-muhammadiyah) Muhammad appearance:

Face: more beautiful than the moon. "Prophet Muhammad was made full of inspiring appearance. his face more radiant than the full moon" 

Imam Malik: "There is one night that I want to compare, I look at the full moon than I look at the face of prophet. i asked myself, which one is more radiant. than I come to the conclusion his face is more radiant more beautiful than the full moon in the desert. the full moon is not only beautiful but also so captivating. as to everything else about prophet muhammad is perfectly bound". 

Also in a hadith: "prophet came to Maryam a.s as a perfect symmetrical man".

-Prophet is perfect in everything. 

Height: He is not too tall not too short. 

Skin: His skin not too light not too dark. 

Face: His face is not too round and not too narrow. 

Eyes: His eyes have a good contrast that his black eyes are perfect black and his white eyes are perfectly white. 

Eyelashes: his eyelashes were so long it looked like they naturally had Kuhl (eyeliner). His eyes have always been moist with tears.

Eyebrows: He had these large curve eyebrows that almost connected but with beautiful space between them that shines light. 

Forehead: he also has a prominent forehead and on his forehead has a vein that always shows when he became the prophet. 

Nose: HIs nose, was not flat nor too pointy; his nose slightly slop with a unique glimmer on it that shine to make it looks prominent. 

Teeth: His teeth are perfectly set, white as a hailstone, and they weren't clustered together (there are fine lines between each of them), he has a wide smile that when he speaks the words sounds crisp. you can hear everything he said. his voice is melodious.

Hair: His hair is in between; nor too straight nor too curly, he has wavy hair. He sometimes put his hair behind his earlobe but also put them all over his shoulder. But during the time of hajj, he will shave full of his hair. His beards are fully black. When he combs his hair he will comb his beard too. "The sahaba counted between 12 to 20 grey hairs in his hair and heard at the time of his death (63 years old)". The prophet is not a hairy man, he has only has a lot of hair on his head and heard and just a normal little hair on his chest that run long until his navel. 

Neck: His neck has an elegant long neck.

Shoulder: His shoulder is broad and strong, strong chest. and during his death, his stomach is not beyond his chest. He maintains his weight during his lifetime. 

Limbs: His limbs, is big and strong. Calves are big round and no weight on his heels. 

Lower body parts: The lower body is so strong. Which stated in a hadith he had mounted on a horse without a saddle. - a warrior. his hands and feet are smooth that his hands and feet were smoother than silk. 

Scent: He has a beautiful scent. When he sweats, he sweats perfume. If we shake his hands the scent will be left on you for many days. He has the best of breath. When we stare at his beauty, it is so amazing that we can't stare at him for so long.

Narrated by Al-Bara in a hadith, "Where he went out at night, and I saw prophet in a red hood that he got from Yaman; his favourite hood and he said never seen a beautiful sight as Him". 

Abu Hurairah said; "I saw prophet has was so perfectly set it was as if he was moulded in silver. his smile- always smiling; when he happy when he sad.

Khatib ibn Malik: "When the prophet is happy his face will be even more radiant".

CAPTURE

How can the Prophet smile so much that he always been in a state of grief and in place of deep thought? 

He never had time to break always carry so much. His character is prominent in his smiling. We always see that a person has no problem just because we always sees them smiling. As we know smiling is sadaqah.

Imagine that "There is no man that smiling to his ummah more than Him, but at the same time, there is no man in his ummah that wipe more than the prophet. during the day, to bring joy to the people, he smiles to bring generosity, and during the night he cried a lot to the Lord to bring joy and happiness to the rest of us". 

Ramadhan reflection- Day 2

 

Verses of Hope and Healing based on Noble Quran (by Mufti Menk)

1. The first word of Quran 

- ‎ Bismillah, the first root of healing. translation: indeed in the name of ALLAH. 

- Prophet said the one who does not take the name of Allah in everything i.e: in their actions (with niat) will not achieve almost anything from it and the deed can be cut off from Allah's blessing and goodness. 

- Learn to take the name of Allah. It will heal the broken soul & hope as Allah is the name of the Maker, the one who will we return, the Protector. 

- bismillah in Al-Quran shows that Allah the one who deserves to be worship

- When we take the name of Allah, we will be blessing in all we about to do. For example, when when we eating we read bismillah to seek blessing from the Creator

-  From Bismillah, Allah decide to focus on two quality;

1.1 Mercy (Al- Rahman)

The descending of mercy on those who believe in Allah (orang yang beriman), al- Rahman & al-Rahim (said both in surah al-Naml)

Every time you read the Quran; Allah said " auzubillah minashaitan nirajeem"- whenever you read the Quran, you should seek the protection of Allah from syaitan and curse"

1.2 Mercy (al-Rahim)

His mercy is encompassing me (Allah) and not only me but everything. Which al-Rahim will be for the non-muslim but not al-Rahman. the Muslim will have both al-Rahman and al-Rahim

2. To start everything with the name of Lord

- Allah is the one who always makes us always in control & protection

- "Indeed we had revealed in this Quran where in here, there is cure and mercy for the believers"- 17:82 (al-Isra)

3.Surah al-Fatihah

- Alhamdulillah- first word in this surah

-A start with a word of praise upon the good condition

Q: But what if in bad condition? Still praise Allah: Alhamdulillah fi ala kulliha "praise is due to Allah upon all condition"

Reward- In the day of judgement the Caller will call upon those who had  praised Allah upon all conditions, and when they were called out, they will be told to enter Jannah before everyone else"

- Praise Allah in all condition because He is the Rabil Alamin "He is the Lord of the world and every existence"

- the Quran had started full of hope and healing. One of the most important surah in the Quran

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The Challenge with Change (by Mizi Wahid)

- Most of us set Goals in significant date/event - Ramadhan as leverage

- Ramadhan is more to the spiritual class 

- Everyone trying to change as a better person. no matter how small the change, this shows everyone is trying but in every effort, there are always challenges

- challenges may vary when you want to be a better Muslim (external to internal challenges)

- Have you ever tried to make a slight change? But there is no external motivation. i.e: peer pressure, spouse support

- S due to this some might hold back their intention because there no support like "what will people think?" "will people judge my past?" "am i good enough for this?"

- Due to this, remember to take a view that when you take a step towards Allah, He will take thousands steps towards you. 

selangkah kita mendekatkan diri kepada Allah , seribu langkah Allah mendekati kita 

Daripada Abu Hurairah bahawa Rasullulah S.A.W  bersabda :

"Allah SWT berfirman: 'Aku berada dalam sangkaan hamba-ku.Dan aku bersamanya jika dia meningati-ku  dalam dirinya , maka aku akan  juga mengingatinya dalam diri-ku.Sekiranya dia mengingati-ku sepenuhnya, maka Aku juga mengingatinya lebih baik daripadanya (mengingati-ku).Jika dia mendekati-ku sejengkal, Aku mendekatinya sehasta.Jika dia mendekati Aku sehasta, Aku mendekatinya sedepa. Dan jika dia mendekati-Ku dengan berjalan, Aku mendekatinya dengan berlari ."

(Riwayat al-Bukhari , al-jami' al-Sahih al Mukhtasar, Dar Ibn Khatir, Beirut,  1987 , Jil 6 , Hlm 2649 , no 6970)

- Advice: 

1. Always begin with clear & right niat. "Inna A'mal lu biniyyat" - every action abid with intention.

With a clear intention, you will have a clear set of purpose and the answer to why you doing such actions. thus we must doing it with faith and perseverance

2. Control your Nafs 

Nafs is the whispers that come into our mind with a lot of negative doubts ie: "I'm not good enough, I have less knowledge". To fight this, think positively, as Allah is the Most Merciful of all. By thinking this way, you will have the strength and courage to pursue this change consistently. 

Tabarakallah hu fikum. May all of us will have a blessful & fruitful Ramadhan. 

Sexual Assault in Malaysia

What is Sexual Assault? 

Sexual assault is an act in which a person intentionally sexually touches another person without a person's consent, or coerces or physically forces a person to engage in a sexual act against their will. It is a form of sexual violence, which includes child sexual abuse, groping, rape (forced vaginal, anal, or oral penetration or a drug-facilitated sexual assault), or the torture of the person in a sexual manner. - Source: Wikipedia

In easy translation, sexual assault is the act of a person engaging with sexual intention no matter on touching, act on penetration or even verbally without consent from another person. A non-mutual action. 

In the law of Malaysia, sexual assault generally, can be charged under section 376 on rape, but rape is on basis of there is proves on the penetration of penis in women vagina. As to this, there is no specific definition or legislation on sexual assault but authority can charge on basis of:

source: Women's Aid Organization

Situation On Sexual Assault

Based on the graphic above, we can see the situation where the law can take action upon whom act based on how the act stated: (follow the chart flow above)

1. Section 354 PC- using FORCE that outrage modesty

2. Section 375A PC- husband HURTING the wife to have sexual intercourse 

3. Section 376B PC- incest (pre-marital sexual intercourse) 

4. Section 377c PC- AGAINST natural sex intercourse 

5. Section 11 SOACA- COMMUNICATING sex with child

6. Section 12 SOACA- child GROOMING

7. Section 13 SOACA- INVOLVED in sex grooming

8. Section 377A- doing sex with OBJECT

9. Section 377D- act AGAINST moral

10. Section 377E- INFLUENCE CHILD to act against moral practice

11. Section 31 CA- SEXUALLY, ABUSING, PERMITTING abuse on child

12. Section 14 SOACA- PHYSICALLY sexual assault on child; touching private/sensitive parts

13. Section 15 SOACA- NON-PHYSICAL sexual assault on child; mind influence on sex i.e conversation/ force to watch porns

Opinion on sexual assault

I joined a chatroom in the clubhouse where they discussed topics on sexual assault in Malaysia. The panels come with persons who work in the legal field, influencers & doctors. A very engaging, diversity and casual yet fun discussion. 

Generally speaking, sexual assault not only happens to women but also to men and children. There is no discrimination in crimes. Statistically, there is a lot of sexual assault towards men but only a few cases are reported. This is a sad reality of toxic masculinity. Where men can be called weak or have no self-defence towards their own hopeless situation. Also, there are many cases of sexual assault in the workplace. For workers, they have specific authority for us under the Employment Act. Again, there is no gender discrimination in sexual assault. 

Shariah in regards to the action of rape is under the law of hudud. But somehow on the matters of sexual assault ulama' regards it under ta'zir. Ta'zir is where the offence is mentioned in the Quran or hadith but the punishment making depends on the authorities, as there is no specific punishment mentioned in the Quran or hadith. Thus, need to keep in mind that how each country settles this issue is different from one another. Malaysia is one country that implies a midway among Sudan & Brunei Shariah Law. Thus saying Civil law has to do its job in protecting all citizen regarding sexual assault as this is the law governs by our country. 

First before we go into a deep discussion let us have a grasp view of how a victim should act if any of these happens to them. 

1- Police report. Remember to use legal terms like in process of divorce for situation where there is force in sexual intercouse by husband. 

2- Do medical report. *the very very very crucial & important* steps as this will be your legal report to prove the court. Straight away go to any near hospital to do medical investigation. Never change clothes, wash or remove anything after the situation. Any hair strands or saliva is important. 

3- Have a trustable witness even the person who caught you crying due to the traumatized situation. 

Society's view

Talking about sexual crimes can still be taboo among some of us. This is a very worrying issue as in today's generation everyone is accessible to just one click on the palm which is gadgets. From the child until the oldies, everyone is open to many accessible dark websites- Porn. 

Porn is like drugs that killing humans from within by attacking us psychologically. How porn artist act excessively give a view of unhealthy sex side from the misguided view and purpose of sex. Child under age of 18 also who is easily influenced by the media and has less or not enough capacity to self resist from this media drugs. Rationally, when family regards healthy sex discussion is taboo, children who have open access to anything including underlying sexual graphic advertisement will have blind learning and have no option to think otherwise. 

When we talk about sex and children well-being, we always thought about sex education. Don't be surprise if I say there is still a lot of against and backlash when the government wants to issue this matter in the parliament. But the increasing incest among youngsters is a very worrying issue. I think I should say sexual education is not only adult matters but everyone matters. by this, only parents can take effective action to make sure their children are safe from involvement in sexual crimes 

Parents are the root of small family. If not the education sector taking effective action on this matter, parents are the ones who should walk the talk first. Everyone can simply say everything starts at home but do we all really work on it. As parents, they need to be cautious about any change in their child's body and emotions. Never takes lightly what the kids trying to say. Educates them with the body right on private parts and teach them right terms of private parts to make sure when they encounter any unwanted situation we know what actually they want to say and feel. 

Victim is Victim and Crime is Crime

There should not be any victim-blaming when in the situation everyone knows victims is the one who been hurts and criminals who had act upon the crimes. But on the side not, we all must understands that in legal procedure as long as the court not making any judgement, there will never be a definite position who is the victims and criminals. But we know if any of such situation happens, there must be the one who starts it and the one who been put under triggering situation. Not denying a lot of facts also possible to be sweep under the carpet, but rationally, victim blame will never bring us to any good. As to the most controversial issue- THE CLOTHES. 

There is a lot of issues discussed around the internet about clothes that are worn by women, the situation women expose themselves in and many more. But the question is how actually this can be a real matter when a child who mostly been rape, assault wearing only pyjamas and long sleeves become the victims in most stories. 

Men and society needs to understand that other than they influenced by drugs when doing this, non-influenced men also can act on sexual crimes. There are 4 stages of crimes:

1- intention

2- preparation

3- attempt

4- commission

Generally, when a person passes the second stage, they can be charged with criminal activity. Speaking of this I believe that everyone can understand how a person who wants to commit crimes has ampoule time to cancel out their intention regardless of how the situation they are in except for one who is under influence, their punishment may be reduced as they excepted from the first and second stage. 

Limitation Of Implimentation

Regarding the law, there still a lot of improvement that needs to be done. On the surface, there are still many bills on matters of sexual harassment still is pending. For example there still no specific definition of sexual harassment in the act or statutes yet the limitation of this protection are common in criminal, labour and administrative. 

Generally, even there is a specific act like the employment act that stated about the sexual harassment they still up to limitation. When a rapist or sexual assault done by a man under influence like alcohol or drugs, they can be free from a full charge. This sounds not fair in my opinion. 

Well known that not only matters of the pending amendment, but also in matters of making law takes a lot of time especially in the administrative part, they take months to finish and publish the amendment on existed law. This is due to the responsibility of the interpretation law to check all the small error like commas to make sure how the law will be read is exactly as how the parliament intended it to be. 

Never Settle For Less

The final outcome I get from the talk is there still a lot of room for improvements must be done to settle such kind of problems no matter from the society, government or even the non-profit organization. We have left so far behind on this issue. Other than the issue of law implementation, a societal issue like victim-blaming need more awareness to help them with a better understanding of how actually such a situation happens and a very triggering to the victims. Unnecessary pressure needs to cancel as how they practice "cancel culture". All we need is respect for each other and know our boundaries and limits. Wrongdoers who using "uno switch card" will not help anything but making the situation become far worse. We all are responsible for our own actions.

I really hope our generation can make a change by simply doing small gesture for example keep sharing and pushing on social media platforms. Never stop sharing as by doing so that is how we keep pushing the authority to make quick amendment and actions for a better country peace. 

Plant Parents: Tips 101

 Hello from me again!

Lets talk about plants today!

Have you heard about becoming a plants parents?

As there is many types of plants we can choose from, as i am saying we can choose our own child here 😎😎😎😎 (hehe). But yes we can choose it and have a free willings to be parents to which one.

Catching on this trend, today we will talk about plants.

Plants???

If you guys not aware, there is varities of plants categorized into, indoors and outdoors, and different amount of sunlight they need. 

The most popular types of plants are the pothos, aglaonema, snake plants and succulents. 

pothos

snake plant

succulents 

aglaonema

The Sunlight

the plants that we choose needs different amount of sunlight based on their types. Basically:

1. full light

2. semi-light

3. full indoors

For newbies, here are few basic tips to understand before getting new plants:

1) Choosing plants

2) Pot must has drainage holes

- medium/small depends on the size of the plants

3) Knows the lights need 

- away

- direct

- semi direct (artificial light)

5)Watering

- do not overwater your plants

- put fingers into the soil 

- if you find ends of the leaves dry = less watered

- if you finds leaves droopy = overwater

droopy leaves ( overwatered)

dried ends leaves (less watered)

6) Fertilizer

- natural ( can get from eggshells. Sink them in water and take the soften eggshells put them onto the soils)

-synthetic (man made fertilizer. chemicals & inorganic substances) 

That is all for today's blog. Here i attached my written notes for plants tips. I hope i can help everyone to understand at least in a very simple understanding. Hope to see you soon!! 💋

source: picture: @pintrest, content: @kittendust 

Fake News and Media Bias

 What is media literacy?

As we were children, we were told about kid's fiction stories like the little red hood. Each of those stories brought their very own moral values, even so, fiction is still something an adult create to feed the children's mindset so they can live life as a child, full of wonders. But as they all grow up, they knew all those stories are just- lies. It is hard now for them to tell otherwise. 

As an adult now they start to listen to media and news. The modern platform which everything happening around the world been told. But how does this making us fed? How does all of the news told to us are really the truth and only the truth been told? As the growing number of internet users years by years has been calculated statistically, most people now know the current issue through social media. The platform like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram are the most popular application nowadays. But do we click the link to the head news they just read or the havoced headlines making us feel enough to know everything and the whole situation? This is a very concerning issue everyone should take into accountability. 

Fake news and media bias

To make everyone understand on grasp, fake news is half lies/lies. While media bias is influenced by information. 

Fake news gives overlap in between falseness and intent to harm. Disinformation is the in-between them. 

Falseness is the misinformation with unintentional information given to the readers. Disinformation is the fabricated information that readers might get caught into lies whether the information given was misinformed or malinformed. Malinformation is the worst in which the news has the abuse of private information. 

Media bias is the influenced information likely by ownership, sales, and ideology. Ownership is where the head of the department ask or direct the writer or editor of the daily news to write based on his idea. We call this payroll bias. The second is clickbait news for the sales. In which the news sold for the sales of the company. Clickbait used to catch the readers' attention so they can get their or a third party's business to raise up. There is case study on this matter which there bias in news some example is in coverage and tone in GERI (refer: the hotdog 2.0) and ownership of mass media companies (refer: who owns mass media Malaysia- the H Market & media prima, ASTRO; stakeholders/interest). 

Another way how media package or present the information is by framing. This way of media presentation only showing what they want us to see instead of what we need or the reality of the news. 

What is media literacy?

In simple meaning, tackling the way we perceive the news or information in the news we read. First, we need to understand the news. Second, we need to be skeptical. Media skepticism is the attitude of questioning and doubting the news first, especially the conspiracies one instead of trusting it blindly. These ways of self-improving will help us to be a smart and better internet user. 

S.U.R.E AHH? 

What is S.U.R.E AH? This is basically an acronym for us as the internet user on the news we have in our hands. Instead of accepting it at first read, we can look for something else as a way to make sure the news is not "manipulating" the readers. 

First, the S. S is for Source. Source can be in ways political, sketchy, and a mere opinion. If we are able to cross-check the news we can at least educate ourselves to not blind trust. The source that has these branches can be a piece of manipulative news or biased news as it basically what the writer wants us to read or what we need to know. 

Second, the U. U is for Understand. Understand the news is one of the ways to not misunderstand the content in the news we had. We can misunderstand the news if we do not read them carefully. If we misunderstand the news, we can be lied to by false truth. 

Third, the R. R is Recognising the news. Don't we all have this experience where the news headline has catchy wordings with misleading pictures that not even connected to what really the news brought. Usually, these can be in tabloid and established paper. A tabloid is where the news happens to have those catchy phrases which more to gossip worth wording such as giving people to misinterpret the content. This actually can be harmful because most of us do not even click on the news' link given to the headlines. As the users scroll through the applications' feed, they just stop by for few seconds to read the headlines before continue on scrolling down. Establish paper is one that usually gives the direct news but not always the case as there still some newspaper companies that influenced by third-party companies that usually one of the stakeholders. 

Lastly, the E. E is emotions. Emotion is how we reacted to the news after we reading them. Our emotions can lead to the spread of misinformation throughout the internet. Platforms like Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram tend to mislead people when some of us re-write the information we got in irrational emotions. Without fact check, this can be harmful to most of us readers. 

(reference is an example of what media showing us and what the reality we behind the picture media had shown)

Findings

So next time we read the news, we need to understand that there risks if we blindly trust the information we have in our hands. Using S.U.R.E AHH acronyms can help us to practice media etiquette better and indirectly helping our internet usage experience getting better. 

That is all from me, i hope to see all of you soon again. 

source: "Fake News and Media Bias" Seminar by Benar Betul, @benarbetulmy (instagram) and Democracy Discourse Series, @dds.malaysia (instagram)

Ruang tanpa tingkap

Kotak hati yang kosong 

Membawa pilu yang membiru

Cuma angin isinya sama dinding

Yang tidak utuh

Aku yang memburu siang demi malam

Aku yang menanti malam untuk siang

Pisahan yang tercicir

Ketika otak tidak tenang melangkah

Waktuku singkat lalu aku memperlahan langkahku

Dalam salju yang menebal

Kaku,

Siang malam tidak lagi berganti

Fikiranku rapuh seperti kotak hatiku

Dinding penuh cakaran cuma mampu ku tampal

Kehidpanku, gelap selamanya

why making them complicated

Hello peeps! I’m back here to RANT about why making things complicated when you can make them simple.

So, basically, things become complicated when you take it to the step of complicating things. It may be from the way of you thinking on certain kind of things or you overthink them. All of these, depending on how you react, making decision and conclusion.

Complicate things will take you nowhere, you will just make things from going straight to the destination making them going to many junctions to reach the destination. It makes the way you solve things into 10 steps rather than 1 steps only.

Most of the people think that making things complicated is how smart people think. But the reality is no. making things complicated is never the best thing, it is not only complicated yourself but also others. They don’t realize, how the impact making things complicated will change someone’s life. People will become stress, mad and not enjoy the process. It is not the best part of life. What the purpose you keep going on this life when in the whole process you keep on making things complicated.

Try to make it simple. Making things simple doesn’t mean you run from the reality, but you trying to react based on the reality. Choose the best way to react, to make decision, and to make conclusions.

Making and creating simple life and things, are the coolest thing on the earth.

kerana ucapan

😆😆😆
Ya hari ini kita berbicara tentang “kerana ucapan”.

Ucapan itu bermula dari terdetiknya sesuatu,

Bermulanya ia dari terfikirkan sesuatu,

Tercetusnya ia apabila keberanian untuk meluahkan sesuatu,

Terkeluarnya apabila yakinnya kita untuk berbicara,

Ucapan itu kuasanya besar,

Selalunya kita tidak sedar kecilnya huruf memberi sebesar-besar makna,

Tidak selalunya kita memperbaiki ucapan apabila tujuan meluahkan itu,

Adalah untuk memperbaiki keadaan,

Selalunya kita hanya mahu yang selesa kurang yang tajam,

Selalunya kita hanya mahukan yang menyebelahi bukan yang menyedarkan

Kita,

Kita sedar tajamnya pisau kerana kerasnya komposisi

Namun lembutnya lidah hasilnya mengguris

Sesuatu ucapan itu, tidak semestinya hanya melalui mulut, tetapi juga memalui lain lain cara

Medium berbicara sudah diluaskan,

Namun ada manusia yang salah gunakan cara,

Tidak sedar kita sedang berbicara tajam yang initinya kosong,

Terguris hati tidak mampu diberi ubat,

Tergurisnya hati mereka ubat sendiri yang beri,

Kita mungkin sudah hilang moral,

Yang manusia dulu agung-agungkan,

Hilang intipati halus,

Megah kosong ruang diisi angin.

Manusia,

Dimanakah identiti,

Yang dahulu mahu dibina teguh,

Namun halus debu bertebangan,

Mengikut ucapan dan bicara lembut lidah tajam menembusi.

Tentang Perasaan

kita manusia penuh dengan perasaan dan rasa. ada kala kita berasa duka, adakala kita berasa sedih, adakala kita berasa gembira, adakala berasa indah, adakala kita berasa itu dan berasa ini.

adakalanya juga perasaan kita bercampur baur tanpa kita sendiri mampu untuk meluahkan perasaan itu. ianya terlalu padat dan sukar untuk diungkapan. 

perasaan adalah satu anugerah
ianya hanya ada pada manusia pada kata fitrah.
kita manusia perlu tahu apakah itu sebenarnya perasaan yang sebenar supaya kita tahu menghargai rasanya merasai sesuatu itu.

sebagai contoh dengan perasaan marah, kita mampu merasai ia melalui rasanya geram, melalui rasa kurangnya sabar dan kita meluahkan itu dengan perbuatan yang menunjukkan perasaan itu seperti meninggikan suara dan bahasa badan kita.

tanpa kita sedar perasaan boleh mengawal menusia. perasaan boleh mengambil alih perwatakan kita dan pada suatu ketika tanpa kita sedar, perasaan itu boleh menjadi karakter kita. seperti contoh di atas, perwatakan kita ialah baran. 

melalui perwatakan negatif tersebut, kita akan mengubah persekitaran kita, kita akan mengubah cara interaksi kita terhadap orang sekeliling, kita akan mengubah perspektif orang terhadap kita.

kita juga sebenarnya merisikokan diri kita terhadap sesuatu. jika buruk perwatakan itu, maka risikonya adalah negatif. kita baiknya perwatakan itu, maka baiklah ganjarannya.

oleh itu, adanya perasaan sabar untuk kita lawan perasaan marah. apabila kita merasa betapa indahnya perasaan sabar itu, kita akan kurang untuk mengadakan dan merasakan perasaan marah itu. berharganya perasaan sabar itu, tidak ternilai untuk kita sanggup korbankan demi perasaan marah yang kita tahu marah itu hanya untuk beberapa minit dan selebihnya ego. marah itu normal namun kita akan mampu mengawalnya dengan perasaan sabar.

begitulah kita mestabilkan perasaan. sesuatu yang buruk itu akan terlawan dengan yang baik. yang buruk akan selalu terlawan.

perasaan itu adalah tunjang kepada sikap. dan bagaimana kita salurkan perasaan itu, ia akan menentukan apa yang akan terjadi pada diri kita. kita yang memilih untuk itu.

namun tidak lupa juga perwatakan juga boleh menjadi sesuatu yang sudah terlahir dari dalam diri kita. ia boleh menjadi suatu anugerah dan boleh juga menjadi suatu ujian. anugerah terus dijaga supaya ia menjadi berlian dalam diri, ujian kita perlu bentukkan kembali supaya kita menjadi yang terbaik.

jika dilihat tentang perasaan cinta, ia adalah suatu anugerah terindah kepada manusia. ianya nikmat yang tidak terkira samada diperolehi kita atau diberi kepada orang lain. orang yang hidup dalam keadaan penuh perasaan tidak akan sedar akan perkara buruk yang terjadi kepada mereka atau jika mereka sedar sekalipun, itu bukan fokus utama mereka. perasaan cinta itu begitu indah sehingga mereka sukar merasakan perasaan negatif, hanya yang indah mereka salurkan.

kita boleh lihat bagaimana orang yang hangat bercinta dan masih di awal peringkat percintaan. semuanya nampak indah pada pandangan mata mereka, mereka terlalu asyik terhadap perasaan itu sehinggakan jika terbuta mata kerana cinta, mereka sanggup melakukan apa sahaja.

namun, bila tiba saat cinta diuji, ada yang tidak mampu bertahan, bukan sahaja tidak mapu bertahan, namun  tidak mampu berjuang pun untuk perasaan yang dikatakan 'cinta' itu. cinta itu suci tidak akan kita mampu untuk mengotorkan ia.

disebabkan itu, kita manusia perlukan panduan untuk salurkan peasaan ini. ia bukan sahaja untuk mengawal, namun untuk melihatkan dan menampakkan kita kepada realiti. kehidupan kita adalah realiti, dan kita perlu bersandarkan kepada realiti. perasaan mencrakkan kehidupan kita. kita melukiskan kehidupan kita melalui perasaan. kita memilih jalan hidup kita. ya, sudah tertulis skrip kehidupan kita oleh tuhan, namun tidak pernah kita lupa bahawasanya kehidupan ini juga tertentu melalui pilihan. kenapa tuhan masih memberi peluang untuk kita memilih sedangkan, tuhan mampu untuk menentukan segalannya?

kerana sebagai manusia yang beriman dan beramal, kita percaya terciptanya syurga dan neraka diakhir sana, sebagai belasan kepada kita atas apa yang kita pilihan.

"our lives are based on what we choose" "we choose our lives"

stay positive. stay you. stay happy.